Motherhood

My Struggles as a Working Mom

If I’m truthful, I envy stay-at-home moms.

I’m under no pretenses that being a stay at home mom isn’t a tough job, but I envy the time you get to spend with your child. When I was leaving my 3 month old baby to return to work, I would have loved to have quit my job and been able to look after my child myself, instead of relying on others to do it, but it wasn’t an option and I guess that is okay.

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I do love working, I love making my own money but I do feel like I miss a lot. And boy am I exhausted. A mentally draining day at work, toppled by trying to spend enough time with your child in the evenings, while feeding and bathing and managing tantrums. The mornings are so rushed as we all have to make it to work and school on time.

I sit at work and feel guilty for arguing with Connor over shoes in the morning.

I sit at home and have guilt because I had to leave early to get my child or wasnt 100% focused at wor.

I constantly feel spread so thin.

There is other factors of life between as well, being a wife, a friend, a sister and a daughter.

You know that moment that you are trying to scrap every last bit of the peanut butter out that jar? Yup, that’s me. That’s my life right now.

Both jobs are important, one is your life and one is your livelihood. My child always comes first but sometimes we have to make sacrifices but we really wish we didn’t have to.

I need to stop giving myself such a hard time about everything and start with the following:

  1. Leave work stress at the work door and only pick it up in the morning again
  2. Do not feel guilty for taking my leave for my child
  3. Do not feel guilty for needing to attend my son’s school and take him to doctors appointments
  4. Do not feel guilty for enjoying work
  5. Do not feel guilty for wanting to succeed at work (it does not make you a bad mom)
  6. Do not apologize for making your family more important than your job
  7. Be proud that both jobs are managed on a daily basis
  8. Do not apologize for being human and not a robot
  9. Work is not your time out, work is work and time out is time out
  10. Remind myself that I am a good mother and I have my sons best interest at heart. I am enough just the way I am, in all aspects

 

It’s very hard to find a balance that works, and perhaps you haven’t found that balance at all… some days I’m not sure if the balance even exists. Just do what makes you happy and even if that means going with the flow….

Big’s up to all the full-time working moms, part-time working moms, the work at home moms and the stay at home moms!

You are all amazing!

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Here is my Connor Bean that makes my days brighter, my nights longer, my heart fuller and my life content!

 

with-love-disney-mom

 

 

 

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28 thoughts on “My Struggles as a Working Mom

  1. Oh I understand how you feel so good! There just is not enough hours in a day. I read a quote that says you have to work as if you are not a mom and you have to be a mom as if you are not working. It is a fine balance. Good luck and thank you for sharing.

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  2. Its. SO. HARD…everyday.
    And no, that balance doesn’t exist. 🙂

    Only compromise does (I believe). A Bit of give and take on all the different fronts all the time. And thats what makes it so hard, I think- that constant need to weigh up which side to give or take from. It gets mentally draining too.

    And I wish I never had to make that decision. But current real life demands prevails, as you say.

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    1. Its comforting to know that Im not alone. We just constantly try our best but we often have too many things going at once. We all in this together. Thanks for your comment. x

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  3. I feel you mama! I am a full time working mama currently going through a separation so now I am trying to balance my household along with sharing custody. Sometimes I feel like my life is such a mess, and sometimes I feel bad I work full-time, but I realize I am doing it for myself and my daughter. We sacrifice a lot as working moms, one being sacrificing time, but that just means we cherish the couple hours we are at home more. Keep up! Thanks for the post!

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    1. You are a great mom, keep you head up and Im sorry for all the things you are going through. It cant be easy, I was a single mom for a year while my husband and I were sorting out our issues, its so tough… somehow we just keep going. You are so right, cherish the time and we go to keep doing the best for our babies. Thanks for sharing with me. xx

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    2. I’ve been there. I know how hard it is especially when are juggling your life and trying to settle in to a routine that works as a single parent and also having to deal with separation and custodial issues. Four years later, I am more confident and stronger knowing that I can handle any situation. Always remember that you need to look after yourself first.

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  4. It’s so true and even though many of us moms feel this way everyday, we don’t always feel supported or supportive of each other. I left my son at home at 2 months…it ripped my heart out. Three years later, I’m still leaving him every morning with someone else and even though it gets better, some days it just sucks. Thank you for reminding me that it’s normal and it isn’t wrong to feel this way.

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    1. Thanks for your comment Amanda 😊 you right, it does get easier but never the guilt and separation never quite leaves us. We are doing the best we can for our little ones. Well done Mommy x

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  5. I can completely relate. The morning rush is incredibly hectic and it’s worse if you’re stuck in traffic too. By the time I get to work, I almost feel as if I need an hour just to relax. I spend so many days (for years) stuck in traffic thinking am I making the right decision to work full-time. The older the kids get, the more demanding their life is with social activities.

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing, it really is a tough choice to go back to work. Some days i really wish i didn’t have too… financially though its not an option. We make do with what we have and make the most of it. Chin up mommy! you are doing the best you can xx

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  6. I could’ve written this myself! Great tips to keep balance. I also found that making a bucket list this summer really
    Helped me be intentional with my time off so we didn’t just have cleaning spree weekends! 😝 I just wrote a post last week about bucket lists that you might want to check out!

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