If I’m truthful, I envy stay-at-home moms.
I’m under no pretenses that being a stay at home mom isn’t a tough job, but I envy the time you get to spend with your child. When I was leaving my 3 month old baby to return to work, I would have loved to have quit my job and been able to look after my child myself, instead of relying on others to do it, but it wasn’t an option and I guess that is okay.
I do love working, I love making my own money but I do feel like I miss a lot. And boy am I exhausted. A mentally draining day at work, toppled by trying to spend enough time with your child in the evenings, while feeding and bathing and managing tantrums. The mornings are so rushed as we all have to make it to work and school on time.
I sit at work and feel guilty for arguing with Connor over shoes in the morning.
I sit at home and have guilt because I had to leave early to get my child or wasnt 100% focused at wor.
I constantly feel spread so thin.
There is other factors of life between as well, being a wife, a friend, a sister and a daughter.
You know that moment that you are trying to scrap every last bit of the peanut butter out that jar? Yup, that’s me. That’s my life right now.
Both jobs are important, one is your life and one is your livelihood. My child always comes first but sometimes we have to make sacrifices but we really wish we didn’t have to.
I need to stop giving myself such a hard time about everything and start with the following:
- Leave work stress at the work door and only pick it up in the morning again
- Do not feel guilty for taking my leave for my child
- Do not feel guilty for needing to attend my son’s school and take him to doctors appointments
- Do not feel guilty for enjoying work
- Do not feel guilty for wanting to succeed at work (it does not make you a bad mom)
- Do not apologize for making your family more important than your job
- Be proud that both jobs are managed on a daily basis
- Do not apologize for being human and not a robot
- Work is not your time out, work is work and time out is time out
- Remind myself that I am a good mother and I have my sons best interest at heart. I am enough just the way I am, in all aspects
It’s very hard to find a balance that works, and perhaps you haven’t found that balance at all… some days I’m not sure if the balance even exists. Just do what makes you happy and even if that means going with the flow….
Big’s up to all the full-time working moms, part-time working moms, the work at home moms and the stay at home moms!
You are all amazing!
Here is my Connor Bean that makes my days brighter, my nights longer, my heart fuller and my life content!